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I Think I Created Quite a Stir

Okay…. so, remember my previous blog? The one titled “Life’s Critical Decisions Come in Increments of Five Years?” I got quite a few comments from it …some long emails (which I’d like to respond to soon, please be patient), some…how do I say this….some comments expressing that a new fear was created in them….hehehe… and I think I have more comments coming in as more people are texting, emailing me or talking to me about it…. so, I’m posting some here now…..

COMMENT NUMBER 1 – From Laura, New York
Hey There-very interesting, and sort of true. I feel like my life comes in 3-4 year increments; maybe I just have a shorter attention span! I think if you aren’t stressed about it, then you are either a. on the exact right path, happy and mostly satisfied with yourself and your life, b. totally not in tune with anything in life, floating by, still, though, unconcerned and probably happy or c. normal. I think I’m a, with the exception of the fact that socially I feel a little lonely.

COMMENT NUMBER 2 – From Isolde, South Africa

I enjoyed your blog – thanks for sharing!

I think that your view probably matches many of my friends but I think that I’ve been in the fortunate / unfortunate position that I’ve had to make major decisions in smaller increments!

My major decisions have been occuring in 2 year increments since I was 16 🙂 WOW, and I’m still alive 🙂

From my perspective, the key is how we deal with making those decisions and the motivation we submit to in those times… I’ve often made major life decisions compromising myself and taking others into account first. My first major decision that I made for me, and me alone, propelled me into the most exciting time of my life and the ripple effect hasn’t stopped since then. We need to make decisions for ourselves……………. selfish as it may seem.

As for just happening along and not being fussed about making those decisions…… whatever works for you! You are beautiful for being you. Honey – one of the reasons that Argentina stands out for me, is you. And just by the way – if you want to run your own business like a queen bee, then go for gold! Success is relative. Success, to me, is a very personal thing. Success is that feeling when you think about your own life and you smile, no matter what you have or haven’t done. Success means wearing a Gucci suit for some and not having to wear a suit at all for others! Richard Branson is a success in manys’ eyes because he’s an excellent entrepeneur… my sister is successful in my eyes because she’s a fantastic mother.

I have the same view of heaven. Everyone has a personal heaven. My heaven would be filled with all types of dancing music, it’d be made of wet paint so that I could change it with the wave of my hand. People would fly using their mind, there’d be ferris wheels and dancers and lots of pink. Beautiful high heel shoes wouldn’t hurt your feet and handbags would be like magicians’ hats. They’d be feather light but if you put your hand inside, you’d pull out whatever you wished for. You’d read entire books by looking at the cover and cats would lounge around on giant fluffy cushions. (They wouldn’t shed hair either!)…. what’s your version of heaven? One day… where’s your perfect place to live until the end of time?

There’s nothing wrong with having your life planned out to the last detail but some of the best moments are the impulsive ones … and some of the most exciting prospects are the ones that popped up while you were doing something else. Thinking about the next steps should not stop us from doing the things that will make us smile a deep smile one day. In the same token, living your life aimlessly seems silly to me. I don’t know what life’s purpose is but I’m sure that its not about being idle!

You’re too right about maturity – its an experience thing. I’ve met some very immature 50 year olds!

I hope you well Honey. Sending lots of love and hugs!

Now….. Isolde asked me what my version of heaven is…. that’s actually a good topic to write about, probably in my “happier and better mood” days. In the meantime, keep those comments and emails coming!

About The Author


Stephanie Caragos is the President & CEO of the 19 year running IT Company, Syntactics, Inc. and is the founder of, a program and initiative that envisions in helping young Filipinos hone their skills in IT and increase their chances of getting stable and profitable jobs. She is also the founder of Syntactics PINK (Promoting Innovation Networking and Knowledge) for women to encourage and empower more women in IT and to encourage the younger generation of women take up STEM. She is a speaker and mentor in various Startup, Online Marketing, Web, ICT and ICT businesses related seminars and talks and works tirelessly in finding innovative ways of marketing online for clients. She is also a staunch supporter of Filipino Small and Medium Enterprises as she continues to develop products and services that would benefit SMEs as well as help them increase their success rate in using technology in business. Stephanie is currently the president of the CDO ICT Business Council and works with the members and stakeholders in the city in promoting ICT to support more startups and create more jobs in the city. She also currently serves as a director for the Eisenhower Fellowship Association of the Philippines. She has completed her Eisenhower Fellowship and was awarded as the Douglas Dillon Named Fellow for the year 2016 and recently completed her term as National President for the National ICT Confederation of the Philippines last 2017.

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